There are times where in you’ll have to adapt to your surroundings. You will have to forget about what you are or your personality when it doesn’t fit the situation you’re in. This is one thing I always remind myself of. As an ESL (English as a Second Language) teacher, I need to be lively, or energetic and to be even funny because the students might find the class boring if I’m being serious while teaching them. But as someone who’s an ambivert, but with 60% introverted-ness, I find it as my biggest struggle in teaching ESL to foreign students to be that full of energy and funny teacher and at the same time with substance, especially to the ones who don’t really intend to learn the language and it’s only their parents who want them to study. I really have to do my best to make them motivated or interested in learning, otherwise I’m not an effective teacher.
I don’t feel comfortable in opening myself, or being silly or funny with someone whom I’m not close with, or unless I’ve spent quite sometime with them, so building a rapport with the students is quite not an easy thing for me to do. However if the students are really determined to improve their skills, I can just be my serious self because they focus more on the lessons than on how I am while teaching.
Nonetheless, like I’ve said, I always remind myself about this, and since my day 1 on this field I’ve been practicing “not being myself all the time” at work. Luckily, there have been some improvements, and one proof of this are my former students who still keep in touch with me online. There are still times, though, where in I still find it awkward to be that funny- interesting – lively teacher, but I believe that if I keep doing this, in no time, I’ll finally be good at adjusting my personality accordingly.
I’m not sure if there are people who can actually relate to this in this particular aspect of ourselves, but I’m more than happy to share this since once again, I was able to put my thoughts regarding one of my struggles into words. So .. whether you can relate or not, I hope it will teach you one thing or two.♥