Almost a year. Wow! That’s how long it has been since my previous post which I just deleted a while ago (toxic, dramatic post). How time flies and a lot has happened. Some good, some bad. Many lessons and many dramas too. Many wrong choices, but here I am still looking forward to many more birthdays, milestones, and new beginnings. Just trying to be grateful for everything, because compared to some people, I’m still a little more blessed in some ways, so what I’ve now is enough to be thankful for. I can’t complain.
So people.. I am back here!! What’s up?!
I actually had assumed this site’s already hidden and private cause I always failed to log in after its custom doman expired October last year. Good thing I remembered to try again this morning.
.So I thought I’d try this new niche. I actually have created a new site and this blog was initially posted there. But now that this is active again, I’ll continue blogging here. And here’s one. I hope you’ll like it.
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I, myself, can personally relate to this. I always try to give my best every chance I get, and yet it doesn’t seem to be enough everytime, that I sometimes think to myself that I’ll never succeed no matter what. But then I look at some people and realize I actually can.
I came up with these 5 things that we don’t realize, actually keep us from succeeding.
1. You don’t make it a point to continue improving yourself. Your best isn’t always good enough.
It can either be your skills or your attitude. You stop right when you’ve proven yourself to be good. After a few recognitions and achievements, you become complacent with your performance and tend to be redundant or boring. You may also have this belief that being “good” is enough and that your good is always of quality. But it is not only keeping yourself a part of the field you chose, but also becoming better each time until you can’t possibly become any better at it.
So you do not stop learning even after finally getting to the point you initially wanted to be. Upgrade your skills every now and then, so you don’t get left behind with the latest trends in your industry.. Better skills equate to better opportunities and always think about quality. Always keep up!
2. You really don’t want more responsibilities.
In as much as you want to become successful, you aren’t really amenable to handle more work than you are used to. You fear that you wouldn’t have enough time for the other things that also matter to you. You want to attend to everything you have all at once and it doesn’t matter to you whatever your standing at each of them so long as you get to keep them. Either this, or you’re just too lazy to want to have more responsibilities to do. But either one does keep you from moving forward. So you wanna be successful but dont wanna give a hundred percent of you. I doubt that’s possible.
3. You only partially love what you do.
Some of us may only do what we do because we haven’t yet figured out what we really want to do. Temporary thing. Some may only have this choice because it’s the only decent paying job they can get. But regardless of our reasons, if we don’t love our thing, then we can’t expect success to come easy.
If we make excuses everytime we fail, and constantly remind ourselves that we won’t be doing what we do now forever anyway, so there’s no need to keep improving, we only create a boundary as to where we can only get to, cutting off success before it even comes.
Also, what we practice often becomes a habit. If you won’t get yourself used to giving your best now, you might get used to just settling for less in your future endeavors, getting satisfied with what you can only get until you realize it can no longer keep up with the society’s demands. So Limiting efforts means also limiting success.
4. You lack confidence.
The goals you’ve set alongside your career are clear. You know exactly the right things to do to achieve them. However, you are simply not confident enough. You desire to get to the top, but you fear many things. You worry so much about committing mistakes, not meeting expectations, and getting judged or you care about what other people would think or say about you. You overthink a lot.
You believe that there are people who can do the role much better. Whenever you’re given a chance, you hold back. You get anxious about showing people your work or how you work.
You won’t get out of your comfort zone. You are scared to grow. But the world is pretty tough. It may understand you for some times, but most times, it won’t so you gotta bear in mind that no one starts “already great”. All those that are at the top somehow at some point in their journey went through awkward times, difficult times.
And it’s not always about having and being great at the skills needed. Sometimes just having the right attitude and the determination to go after excellence is enough. One can be great but if he’s fond of coming late, making absences or worse, being a lazy kind of worker who only wants to work when in the mood, then there’s no way he can last.
5. It’s probably not yet your time.
I don’t personally believe in “there’s time for everyone, for everything”, cause I guess I’m more of a fan of “success is a product of hardwork, dedication and commitment”, although I know some successful people now who actually had to wait for some time cause they were being underrated. To me, one has just got to be at least good and passionate at what he does for people to buy his services. And success does not happen overnight. It can sometimes take months to years to be so good and for appropriate recognitions to be given. There’s a process.
But if you are at this point in your career where you’ve invested so much time, and proven yourself to be competent and yet you still feel like you aren’t successful (as we all have our own definitions of it), just keep going and improving yourself. Everything will pay off just at the time that’s meant for you.
They’re common stuff that a lot of us do but we don’t realize. Sometimes we really have this urge to rather “chill” now and just work later (procrastinate). We care about not missing out on some things outside work when we can actually just manage our time well. And we don’t realize that a little sacrifice now could actually go a long way. Or we easily get discouraged to do or give more when some things don’t go as planned. We’d rather get depressed than take risks and get rejected a few times and be redirected to a better version of us.
But to me, as somebody who hasn’t achieved it yet, I think success, no matter what it means — fulfilling career, stable source of income, or simply getting the freedom to do stuff, boils down to how much we are willing to give and how patient we are to wait.